[alexscheelmeyer]

I would be more inclined to accept his message if it could not be boiled down to "If it is not working for you, you are not trying hard enough". Also, more marriages have probably failed due to the husband being a wimpy "I love you every day no matter what"-kind of guy than due to adultery. Adultery is the consequence of a failing marriage, not the cause. When you are the president with power over a nation it can counteract the wimpyness. For a software developer? Not so much.

[mattgreenrocks]

That's just status anxiety. It's easier (and more fulfilling) to fix the wimp factor.

You'd have to do that, eventually. The wife is just acting as the canary in the coal mine.

[Retric]

Adultery is rather common. Estimates vary widely, but 2-4% of children are not biologically related to their 'fathers'. Which only measures female adultery leading to a child add in male adultery it's farm more common than generally acknowledged.