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by theGnuMe 697 days ago
Dad, can I bring my iPad?

Me: no

Dad, my iPad is dead. Can I use your phone?

Me: no

And so forth. Not hard.

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My kid usually wants to know how I make decisions and never settles for a single "no" or "because I said so". I can tell them "because I want you to find some other stuff to play with", which might result in complaining for a while. Saying "not hard" is definitely not true in many cases. It's doable, but it's still hard.
Whatever works for your family. The more you set the boundary though the better. I guess the ideal parenting method is to reinforce good choices and not reinforce bad ones.

The best trained dogs are those trained only by positive reinforcement so…

Dad, can I go to visit my friend Johny?

Me: yes.

And there they are, watching movies with Johny in Johny house.

Social movie watching or gaming is not bad imho.
Dad, can I have an tablet/smartphone for birthday/Christmas?

Me: no