[refulgentis]

You're absolutely right, trying to walk a delicate tightrope that doesn't end up with me giving my unfiltered "you're wrong so lets end conversation" response.

Me 6 months ago would have written: "this comment is unhelpful and boring, but honestly, that's slightly unfair to you, as it just made me realize how little help the article is, and it set the tone. is this even a real argument with sides?"

For people who want to improve on this aspect of themselves, like I did for years:

- show, don't tell (ex. here, I made the oddities more explicit, enough that people could reply to me spelling out what I shouldn't.)

- Don't assert anything that wasn't said directly, ex. don't remark on the commenter, or subjective qualities you assess in the comment.