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by eska 701 days ago
Would you also tell him "you just need to work on your self esteem for massive benefits!!"? Sorry, but society doesn't work that way.

which if he's correct, would probably improve his life to some extent.

I would tell him to work on himself physically, mentally, and socially. Just like I said in my previous post: even if you give a loser good hair, he will still be a loser. I don’t think his life would improve at all.

He may get some fake self-confidence (take away the hair and the confidence is gone again). But women would not find him attractive because of the hair but because of the confidence, but they’d snuff out that it’s fake very quickly. He can have confidence without hair as well, and have the same benefits. In fact bald men exhume vast amounts of confidence for saying “fuck it, I don’t care, I will shave it”. Meanwhile balding men look like they can’t come to terms with what’s gone being gone, desperately holding on to the last sickly strands of hair because they think that’s their ticket to getting a partner. Even women who make bald jokes will find a man sexy and manly for reacting to it confidently.

You speak about baldness as if it was some festering disease that’s always negative, but it’s not. Physical attractiveness is based on looking healthy. If you’re Quasimodo: fat or scrawny, have no muscle and a zombie face (no energy), a woman might ask herself how a cancer patient is going to have a healthy baby with her and provide for the family. But if you have some muscle, some tan and look rested, they will assume it’s natural.

And like there are hairstyles some people can or can’t pull off, a bald head or buzzcut are the same. Some people genuinely look the best without hair, because of their head shape. I don’t think The Rock would take a hair pill, because he looked silly with hair. And even if you look bad without hair, it will always beat the balding look by far.

What I mean by psychological issue is that it’s rather evident that the parent loves to focus on things he can’t control rather than what he can. This a common pattern. People will blame their erectile dysfunction on age, genes, and microplastics, rather than not doing any exercise at all since they became adults, stress, bad sleep and garbage nutrition So they take a pill, have surgery or buy devices like pumps to fix the problem, like we also see for balding.