[tptacek]

"Normal, mature, well-adjusted adults of either gender should be able to handle politely turning down a co-worker, IMO."

Obviously here you've moved the goal posts, from "should have to put up with" to "should be able to handle".

It seems like everyone here has made their points and there's not much to be gained from relitigating. Why don't we all just agree that the thread we've got here so far does a pretty decent job of summing up all of our respective takes on this issue, and refrain from growing the thread any further?