Exploiting shame is a valid strategy, and defencelessness is a weakness? People are feeling shame because they're inexperienced in power relations? Power relations are fun if you view them as games?
>> The first step in becoming a top player is the realization that playing to win means doing whatever most increases your chances of winning. That is true by definition of playing to win. The game knows no rules of “honor” or of “cheapness.” The game only knows winning and losing.