[PaulHoule]

I've been thinking about "dating" services that revolve around structured activities, pretty obviously chatting on OkCupid is for the birds but you'd imagine you could put people through activities that would build intimacy. I am thinking about things like Aron's 36 questions but this camping idea sounds great.

I recently had a "meet cute" with someone on the bus that was out of the blue, the next time we rode it was kindof awkward: after something like that for instance you might not want to sit right next to them because it would be too close.

The day after that she brought along a close friend and we hung out in a group and that's what happens most mornings, it is a no-stress way to hang out that doesn't put any pressure on me to be smart or funny or smooth or not put my foot on my mouth. When we ride back we often end up sitting in adjacent seats and talking just a little if at all but I really relish that because I get to enjoy her presence without the pressure that I need to do or be anything.

I can't imagine that we're not going to go on a "date" someday because clearly the attraction is there and we have shared interests to explore. I do know though by the time it happens we are going to actually know quite a bit about each other and already had quite a bit of closeness so if my heart is pounding it's not going to be out of anxiety.

I don't know if this method is repeatable or scalable but I think it's the right idea. I remember hanging out with friends in college and some couples would break out of the group and it seems we're somewhat deliberately recreating that experience for people who are a bit further along in life.