[nyssos]

> Dark matter is strictly defined by its effects

All physical entities are defined by their effects! Suppose we found axions and they had the right mass to be dark matter. Would that mean we now "really knew" what dark matter was, in your sense? No, it would just push the defining effects further back - because all an axion is is a quantum of the (strong CP-violation term promoted to a field).

Just like the electromagnetic field is the one that acts on charged particles in such and such a way, and a particle is charged if the electromagnetic field acts on it in that way. There's no deeper essence, no intuitive "substance" with some sort of intrinsic nature. All physical properties are relational.