[hn_throwaway_99]

> bidets have this field fully covered

No, they don't. This "let them use a bidet!" stuff is an asinine response that is literally the equivalent of "let them eat cake."

Elderly people who need someone to wipe for them are usually either completely physically immobile where they're not exactly strolling to the toilet in any case, or they're wearing diapers, or they're so mentally declined they basically forget what they're supposed to do.

Plus, as the owner of a bidet who uses it every time I take a poop, you still need to wipe. What, you're going to just drip dry in your underwear - gross! My bidet even comes with a drying fan but it's in no way sufficient, you still need to wipe.

[carlosjobim]

So you have to sacrifice one of two people. Either the old who cannot take care of himself, or the caretaker who has to waste their life taking care of the old.

[hn_throwaway_99]

Tell me you've never taken care of a loved one without telling me you've never taken care of a loved one...

[carlosjobim]

People would and still do deliberately raise some children to be without their own families so that they can be dedicated care takers. Ie not allowing a daughter to marry and such.

Listen, somebody spending years or a decade taking care of a family member is a story as old as time. But let's not pretend it's not an enormous sacrifice.