Eep! Thanks for pointing that out. I'll just put the list here:
- Giving advice
- Changing the subject
- Dismissing feelings
- Leading questions
- Devil's advocate
- Sympathy (e.g. "I know exactly what you're going through...")
- Commiserating
- Defensiveness
- Static labeling
- Sarcasm
- Shutting down
- Intellectualizing
- One-upping
- Storytelling
Not saying these are all bad all the time. Just things to maybe start noticing. See what happens when you just hold off on these types of reactions for a moment.
You don't even have to do anything. Just... chill. Be silent. Think about what the person said.
I've found this is a more actionable place to start than something like "read this book" or "take this course"
Not saying these are all bad all the time. Just things to maybe start noticing. See what happens when you just hold off on these types of reactions for a moment.
You don't even have to do anything. Just... chill. Be silent. Think about what the person said.
I've found this is a more actionable place to start than something like "read this book" or "take this course"