| What's the social atmosphere like? I ask because I had this one job, where the tech team was a few nerdy programmers in one office, before COVID, and a bunch of people in a friend group I wasn't part of, after COVID. By that I mean, before COVID it was common for the founder to take us out for lunch or tennis as like official team building time. I loved this because I'm a picky eater and it's hard for me to make friends, so if the company makes official initiatives, it's easier for me to fit in. After COVID, the official initiatives weakened. The team was too big to take everyone out, and I didn't join the friend groups who naturally found ways to socialize. In that new environment I no longer felt like an equal member of the team, I felt like an outsider who had authority on paper but didn't have any of the camaraderie needed to get things done and survive a work day. Even though everyone repeatedly said I was respected and valued as the most senior programmer, I found it impossible to be a good teammate in that new environment, I felt like I was just spending all day being mean and nobody got a chance to see me as human. That was part of why I quit. In that environment my code reviews sucked. Now I'm at a remote company where once again it feels like everyone is equally non-social, and I'm just gonna ride that as far as it goes. If they get an office I'll probably cash out and go on vacation for a year Edit: almost forgot, the other woman who was part of the original "nerdy programmer" team, ended up also burning out and quitting about the same time as I did. She also didn't really make friends in the new environment, and seems much happier pursuing her hobbies and taking it easy between jobs |
I spend all day being mean in code reviews too, and I'm a relative junior compared to most of my team! >:] They do not see me as human because I am not human. I do not have their human emotions and concerns. My only concern is code. They still like and respect me though, it feels like!