[giantg2]

'but most of the world works on “fuck you I’ve got mine”'

I think this is an oversimplification and misrepresentation. I certainly see it in some additudes (my wife's opinion of aome of our neighbors, unfortunately), but there are some others. I more often see the additudes that come from responsibility. Like you mentioned about not giving money but food instead. Most government housing comes with some sort of requirements currently. I think many people just want assurances that the money is helping people and that they aren't being taken advantage of.