Certainly the overwhelming view of HN is that they're morally equivalent, but that's more an indictment of blinkered HN groupthink than a statement of fact.
Agreed. Apple is by no means perfect (far from it), and neither is macOS. But anything user-hostile in macOS is relatively minor in comparison to Windows.
And for anyone who hasn't used macOS, it's not a locked-down walled-garden like iOS is.