[Tomis02]

> Where’s the high? Where’s that immediate endorphin rush? Where’s the event that makes you realise “hey, maybe I’m really fucking good at this”?

As a person who's had only bad managers (with one exception), this is a signal that I wouldn't want this person to be my manager.

Being a manager shouldn't be about yourself, your focus should be outwards.

I get it, not everyone can be the kind-hearted Samaritan who always thinks of others. But even if you're one of the self-centred majority who thinks the universe revolves around them, keeping your subjects happy is still a requirement if you want them to be productive and motivated over a long period of time. Don't they teach that in Management 101?

[newswasboring]

You're reading a lot more into it than has been said. First, feeling good about yourself is a human requirement, it's nothing special, everyone has it. Second, this requirement doesn't preclude you from thinking of others. Just like a parent doesn't have to hate themselves to love their kids. And third, if you expect your managers to never take care of their emotional needs you are only pushing them to burn out.

[Tomis02]

> feeling good about yourself is a human requirement

Sure. I feel good about being kind to other people, whereas the author's specifically chasing some sort of highs. I don't know where this expectation could have come from, considering managers are almost universally considered to have "more responsibility". More responsibility means more stress and less fun. You'd expect an adult to understand this before moving into management, but alas.

> Second, this requirement doesn't preclude you from thinking of others. Just like a parent doesn't have to hate themselves to love their kids.

To continue your comparison, a parent is expected to think of their kids first. We call that responsibility.

> third, if you expect your managers to never take care of their emotional needs you are only pushing them to burn out.

Nobody said that. But if your emotional need is to get constant highs and you didn't have enough foresight to realise you won't get that in management, I simply don't want you as my manager.

Like I said in my original comment, this blog post is a signal. I could be wrong, but I've seen so many bad managers that my intuition tells me something's off.

[navjack27]

Not everyone has it by the way. Not everyone gets endorphin rushes full stop.

[m463]

I think he's just (honestly) saying the feedback loop of competitive vs collaborative is just different. Might also be it's lonely at the top.

[Tomis02]

> Might also be it's lonely at the top.

Yeah, poor poor lonely managers. They hold a lot of power over other people ("responsibility") and yet we're supposed to be sorry for them. Their burden is so great that they cry on the internet that they're not getting their endorphins.