[carlosjobim]

Most of your wealth should be in offshore accounts or buried in places that neither friends, family, the government and least of all your spouse knows anything about or can touch. That's called sleeping easy at night. If anybody starts to nose about your money, it's time to start becoming very suspicious.

As for how to split expenses, that's according to your personal preference.

[caeril]

Not really sure why this take is controversial. Protecting your assets is the prudent thing to do. Sure, you don't earn yield from buried gold or non-custodial cryptocurrency wallets, so it's a suboptimal investment vehicle, but every person should have a backup plan for when the IRS or Family Courts come knocking.