[havblue]

While the book is more about relationships, it does make applicable points. A "nice" manager that refuses to get down to brass tacks is eventually going to be a problem for everyone when the schedule slips: your complaining about what the actual problem is will be viewed as disloyalty and you'll be the one thrown under the bus.

The opposite view can be taken here though, also discussed in the book. If you are not the manager, you should avoid trying to fill that role. The manager and director certainly don't want you to "help fix their problems".

[bsuvc]

Ah yes, someone else who has read it.

You're right, it is more in the context of romantic relationships, but I have since noticed nice guys can be a problem everywhere.

I certainly had some "nice guy" tendencies in the past, and maybe still do sometimes, bit I try to be aware and strive to be more direct in my words and behavior.

It's been a few years since I read it... I may read it again actually.