[hereonout2]

> They live by a sort of unspoken code that they believe exists but which other people may or may not be aware of.

I try to be a nice guy but also believe (hope) I'm competent!

On the above that's something I've recognized though, I do feel like I bring some sort of unwritten moral code to my work (as do we all I'm sure) but realizing that nobody else is actually aware of it or follows it is quite important.

I think this goes some way to being able to be "nice" without getting resentful or bitter when things don't go your way.

From the kind-hearted colleague who's freindly at the water cooler but actually very difficult to work with - through to the people who are just rude, dismissive or belligerent - acknowledging that they operate by a different set of principals to you and accepting that somewhat release's you from their effects.