[citricsquid]

oh, that's much better. You should make that clear somewhere on the site before starting to chat[1], I signed up and was unaware that I remained anonymous so decided not to go any further. I saw my details listed so made the assumption everyone saw them.

[1] I see "Anonymous You are anonymous until you send an add request" but that's after I started to search for people just now to check, I would never have got that far if you hadn't explained about anonymity.