[rrr_oh_man]

> it implies that if one of us dies, the key worry of the management is who left who knows how to deploy the foo-banana service

Story from this week:

Manager at large-ish IT support company, visibly distraught, tells their manager that one of her direct reports got cancer.

Response: "Oh, and I thought something bad happened, like the direct report quit."

[manfre]

Sorry you have to work with a toxic manager.

[jpc0]

Got cancer ranges from will be out of office a few times a month for a few months to a year through to won't be here next month.

You are reading a lot out of words read on an internet screen. This manager may very well be toxic, they may also just not be able to express emotion in the same way and very well went above and beyond putting everything in place for said employee to receive all the medical support they need, mental and physical.

We don't know and for all we know OP is in a bad space and completely misread the situation.

This whole comment is devil's advocate, you can make the same argument for the exact opposite and of course your personal experience matters but leave the airing of dirty laundry out of public forums and if I do the same I encourage anyone to call me out on it.