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I agree that no one should use that term -- but simply because it's ugly, not out of concern that it might normalize spousal abuse. It does not, and never has.

If anything, it denigrates the subcultures in which the garment is popular. They probably don't need protection from language tut-tuts like us though.

And ironically, I hear the term most frequently from women, many of whom are now married and so, are wives. Still, it grates every time.