[throwaway2037]

    > You can decide to give your child cochlear implants, and integrate them into mainstream schooling - or you can opt out of that, and integrate them into the deaf community.

The use of "or" here reads as exclusive: one or the other, but not both. In the last 15 years, since child cochlear implants became mainstream, many children have taken both routes, simultaneously. This is most frequent when one or both of their parents are also deaf. They are full members of their deaf community (learn to sign, plus all of the associated culture), and they are full member of the mainstream, non-deaf community (learn to listen and speak, plus all of the associated culture).

[appletrotter]

Great point