[oblib]

I was in my early 20s talking with a friend who was at least twice my age. I was bitching about a guy who'd look at the work I was doing who really didn't know squat about it and start telling me how I should be doing it.

After listening to me for a bit he quietly said "Well, you can learn something from everyone if you focus on that."

I spent a couple days pondering that. At first I tried dismissing it because he wasn't there when the guy I was whining about was blabbering on and on, and he didn't know the guy, but it kept bugging me and after a few more days it occurred to me that if he was right I'd been missing out.

Just a few days later the guy I was whining about came by again and looked at the work I was doing told me he knew a guy who could do most of that for me and it wouldn't cost as much and I could get it done a lot faster. So I went and talked to the guy, and sure enough he could do it, and do it faster and better, and it cost me a lot less.

I ended up making a lot more money on that work, and the company I was doing it for was thrilled with the changes. And since then I've focused what I can learn from others, even those who tend to annoy me.

[lostlogin]

The other part of this is that someone can be right, and an arsehole.

[_carbyau_]

Yeah, I still like the premise, not just for what you learn but what you should respect.

In one workplace one guy was socially awkward, coke bottle glasses etc. But an absolute machine on the tickets. And when I looked over his shoulder he was simply getting shit done. But being socially awkward he never got the reward, negotiated raise etc he deserved.

Another guy was an absolute psycho career player. Do anything to make others look bad while doing mediocre work himself. Grab easy tickets for himself but sabotage other team queue tickets by making a promise to customers - not note that in the ticket - so when it was picked up by someone else they'd already breached a promise to the customer and get downrated.

One guy I respect. One guy got a promotion out of there.

[mindwok]

Props to you for putting your ego aside and finding something positive out of that shitty situation.