| It's not just women that are unpleasant, it's men too. The swiping economy has really done a lot of damage to the dating economy. The mutual disrespect flows both ways. The apps promote bad behavior by the very nature of their design. I had quite a few matches cancel hours before meeting up, or just not show up. I had a match meet me at a concert ( I know, bad idea), and she spent most of night hitting on my married friend and crying in the corner. It's really discouraging, depressing and dehumanizing. I do not remember it being like this when I was in my 20's. I am 42 now and used the sites from the time my divorce was finalized in 2021 until last summer. It wasn't all bad, I dated a few matches for more than a few weeks. The main problem is that in my experience, a lot of women will exaggerate their hobbies and interests on their profile to attract potential matches. It did really seem like many people were on the apps because they don't have time to date or did not have social lives/hobbies. Based on the lack of success, I decided to stop wasting time on the apps and focus exclusively on expanding my social circle, volunteering, participating in social groups activities and going places where I could meet people. I've made a lot of new friends with interesting hobbies. You still get rejected IRL, but I didn't find anyone to be overly unpleasant about it. I ended up dating a few women over the course of a few months before I ended up with the girl I am with now. Incidentally, everyone who I dated during this period had also given up on the apps and remarked on their toxic nature. Dating apps are not made for dating, they exist solely for making the site money by selling boosts and premium memberships in exchange for access to the product (women). |