[calciphus]

I've known more than a few ex-religious of varying types who in young adulthood have to find an explanation for why:

- they are not at all who the faiths they were raised by said they should be - they know there's not actually anything wrong with themselves (or others like them), despite what their faith taught them

Squaring these two deeply personal realizations is challenging. People take many paths. Your interaction is an outlier, but by no means the most extreme I've encountered.