[zachmu]

I think of it more as a general observation: the people who maintain open source projects that must deal with the public must have thick skin, or they won't last. Acknowledging that there are and will always be assholes like the email writer in the world is not to excuse their behavior. It's great to call out shitty behavior and try to get rid of it, but it will always be around at some low level, that's the reality.

[emsal]

Unfortunately HN is no longer a place where you can assume good faith observations when something like that is said. OP's words play into toxic narratives that need to be called out for the sake of other people reading the comments. I might be wrong about OP's intentions when giving my reply, but I am pushing back against a narrative, not against a specific person.

[jsthrowaway]

> I might be wrong about OP's intentions when giving my reply, but I am pushing back against a narrative, not against a specific person.

What narrative? Your comment is vague. Would you mind expanding on this accusation and how it relates to open source, especially when today's maintainers on platforms like GitHub and GitLab have an array of tools at their disposal to deal with issues?

[emsal]

OP replied to my comment and I now see that it makes sense as an observation. The narrative I was referring to is something that I see common in discussions surrounding abuse; "there's nothing to be done about it; [people should] just grow a thick skin." If we agree that this exists, then I posit that it's a toxic thing to say to someone who's coming forward and saying that they're suffering from this. It's also toxic to use that as a way to dismiss measures that we can build in technologically to combat abuse, like building blocking mechanisms or modifying them to make them better. Hope that clarifies things.