[uptime]

I want to find the equivalent of HN for healthcare, where I think you’d find a ton of women MDs and highly specialized nurses who are women expressing frustration with their adjunct or artist men. This community is not the whole story.

[prirun]

I had a minor procedure a while back - enough that I had to be put under - and asked my nurse if she was happy with her job. She said yeah, she loved it, but she made more money as a barkeep! I was completely shocked, especially considering the hours nurses are expected to work. This was a real nurse, not an aide. I think healthcare is a not-so-great career anymore, again because corporate profits are all that matter.

[exolymph]

Was she hot? You can make a ton of money as a bartender if you're an attractive woman.

[johnnyanmac]

Oh yeah. Nurses and MD's are night and day in compensation. And I'm sure you've heard the teacher salaries as well by this point.

Skilled labor does not outdo the decades of gender conformity expected from these jobs.

[IdiocyInAction]

Given that women generally avoid dating lower-paid partners, there's a good chance you wouldn‘t or that those people would be outliers.

[TMWNN]

Such relationships exist. But in no way are such anywhere as common as those relationships in which men earn more than women. And that disparity is primarily because, as IdiocyInAction said, women don't want to be in relationships with men who earn less, not because men don't want to be in relationships with women who earn more.

[mlrtime]

"because men don't want to be in relationships with women who earn more."

This on it's own may be a correct statement however as you phrase it makes it sound like this this is the defining reason.

It's not, there are anecdotes of (insecure) men not wanting this dynamic, but a majority of cases the opposite is true. Women seek men of higher value (earning potential), not less. Men seek youth/beauty.

[TMWNN]

You misread me. I wrote

>women don't want to be in relationships with men who earn less, not because men don't want to be in relationships with women who earn more.

[dudul]

Good luck finding that. Women tend to not be interested in men who earn less than they do. I think the closest you may find are women temporarily supporting their husbands while they finish their degree or something like that, but again, the plan is for the husband to become the main earner.

It is sometimes presented under the myth of "men threatened by women who have a big career", but I have never seen researches supporting that. Men don't care if women earn a lot, note that they don't prefer it, they literally don't care. It is not a criteria when choosing a partner. Women do care a lot though about finding a partner who earns more than they do.