[avgDev]

I'm an adult, history of ADHD. Youtube, facebook, reddit is a disease for me. I am a moderator of some niche subreddits but if I stray away I will find myself stuck reading comments and engaging in conversations for hours.

I take steps by not using my phone during work or after a certain time but it is extremely difficult and I still fall into the trap and watch some shorts for 2-3 hours at a time. I'm not stupid either, graduated with honors in CS and people consider me really smart. My brain just likes how it makes me feel.

Now, I have a fear what all this stuff will do to my child, if even I have trouble with it.

I hate almost everything about the modern commercialized web and really miss irc and forums.

[rustcleaner]

I am undiagnosed (from a parent who was ADHD anti-diagnostic) as an adult but strongly suspect I too. I've never taken an amphetamine to see if there is improvement.

Privacy reasons aside, a big reason I ditched social media and much of the normiesphere technology is the distract-ability. I take great care and pride in reducing unwanted automated interruptions to zero. My phones only make a noise if a cleared human on the other side is initiating the noise. There are zero "check this out" or "your coins reward is ready" crap pinging me, and I won't have it!

ADDENDUM: my abridged phone stack is:

GrapheneOS (there is nothing better)

Mullvad (audited by police raid) & Tor

Syncthing-Fork (because f' the cloud)

Fennec (+uBlock Origin,Sponsorblock,Tampermonkey)

Tor Browser Bundle (anti-glowie browsing)

BraveNewPipe (multiplatform and search settings)

Seal (decent yt-dlp wrapper)

Session F-Droid & Briar (anti-glowie messaging)

[Aurornis]

> Youtube, facebook, reddit is a disease for me. I am a moderator of some niche subreddits

I had a friend who developed a problem with alcoholism. He went through a period of time where he'd stop by the bar several nights a week to have a single beer because he thought it was important to his social circle.

To no one's surprise, that one drink often turned into two drinks. Two became four, then six, then eight, then he was blacked out on a Wednesday again.

It took some time, but he finally admitted that his habit of visiting the bar was a trigger for the exact behavior he was trying to avoid.

When I see someone talk about how they have a severe social media addiction that they're trying to overcome, but then go on to talk about how they're a moderator on the platform they're trying to avoid, I see the exact same thing.

I don't know what else to say, other than that my friend is doing fantastic now that he's stopped visiting bars at all. He discovered that once he removed the bar as an option for his free time, he realized how many healthier alternatives there were in the real world. He wasn't constantly playing the game of moderating his alcohol intake because he wasn't in environments where he had to. He's much happier now.

[emayljames]

For now at least, reddit doesnt seem to have all those dark patterns you see on say FB (forced refresh if you turn your screen off on mobile, minimum and deliberately bad moderating).

[Aurornis]

> reddit doesnt seem to have all those dark patterns you see on say FB

Reddit is one of the worst offenders for rage bait, algorithmic feeds, content farming, and vacuous content.

> (forced refresh if you turn your screen off on mobile, minimum and deliberately bad moderating).

Reddit absolutely refreshes your feed under certain circumstances depending on the platform, such as hitting the back button.

Your claims about moderation are also completely backward. People complain about Facebook being too sensitive about moderation, but Reddit is basically the wild west. Nearly anything goes on Reddit and the mainstream subreddits are frequently full of highly upvoted misinformation.

[Jerrrry]

this is so blatantly false I have assume you made an impossibly improbably amount of typographic errors.

reddit is 95% bots echoing the sentiments of a few liberal elites and the 5% of real users are childless aged women. No sexism, this is facts.