[xmpp-enjoyer]

20 friends is very impressive! Do you have any tips for how to do it? If you don't mind me asking, do they also use it to chat amongst themselves / group chats etc - or only with you?

I also recently set up a server, and have convinced my partner and immediate family to join, but I feel I'm going to struggle to get my friends to do the same. Any tips on what works and what doesn't are greatly appreciated :)

[zaik]

I don't use anything else, and people get tired of sending me emails rather quickly... Also after you have some number of people with XMPP addresses you actually start to feel some network effect! I suspect most people just use it with me, but I have seen some friends who didn't know each other before to use it. Since they were in the same group chat this likely was just the easiest option, instead of asking me for their telephone number.