| So, something is (or isn't) "reason" based on your judgement on what is reasonable or justified? What if you are wrong? > The possibility that you might ask to call has no bearing on whether or not you should start with "Hello," because if you are going to ask to call, you would be better served by just asking to call If they respond (within a minute, say), you might ask for a call. If they don't, you instead type out the question, and check back later. Hence the response (asking for call, vs question) depends on the answer to "Hi". > if you are going to send the message to multiple people, you would be better served by sending your actual question Why? If someone else is answering, I explicitly don't want another person to start working on the question. If anyone one responds while I've already asked the question, I can just tell them I no longer need help - they waste little to no time or focus working on finding an answer. > Even if you get more than one answer, you can just thank the people for their responses This seems like a much bigger waste of other peoples time. > you are still better served by having them know why you wanted to talk, since they can better appreciate why you would have sent multiple messages why am I "better served" by this? They don't need to know what I might have asked, it's a distraction for them. > if you do need someone to be present, you would be better served by having them already know what you might need them to be present to discuss If they aren't present, the discussion may not happen. |
If you can give a single example of a situation where saying "Hello" instead of actually including your question, by all means make it, but you are the only one who can't see how poorly you communicate.