[loceng]

The TL;DR would be that you can regulate-manage how, how much, or if you are shaped by an experience.

And understanding this and factors that help or factors that may make you more prone or fragile, make it more difficult to regulate, is valuable knowledge as well - such as if you're high in conscientiousness and/or negative emotion ["neuroticism"] - and further knowing if that's the case it usually merely means it will simply to take to master than the average, so then to learn to be more patient with yourself.

P.S. Are they still producing new seasons of Silicon Valley?

[makeitdouble]

The tools you're using to regulate and manage your experences also come from your experiences. How you understand them comes from past interactions and comparison with other positive and negative experiences.

There is sure an inate part and I don't intend to redo a nature vs nurture debate, but you still need an environment even to express your nature, so I'm not sure what you are really getting at.

[loceng]

All true.

What I'm getting at is people need to get exposed to the knowledge and practices, if they are to potentially benefit from the tools and support available.

So that first starts by somehow gaining an adequate level of attention from them, a certain level of interest, and that often occurs due to something occurring that leads to an impetus that causes them to stumble and journey to discover where they otherwise have learned to avoid.