[jamesgolick]

> You have to think a bit more about what OO really is about.

If you want to have a respectful debate, I'm completely game. If you'd prefer to continue with your incredibly condescending tone, then I'll bow out here.

[stiff]

Well, maybe I got carried away a bit with the tone in general in the last paragraphs of both comments, but I think I substantiated the particular sentence you cited quite a bit. On the other hand, I also took half an hour to clearly explain to you why this is somewhat misguided and tried hard to be polite, while someone below just said "this is fucking ridiculous". It's hard, at least for me, to give constructive criticism, without the other person being offeneded.

[evolve2k]

I find utilising the Feedback Sandwich Technique, with some authentic positive encouragement, usually works well.

I apply it mostly when I'm writing something and am getting the feeling that it might not come across so well.

http://www.rightattitudes.com/2008/02/20/sandwich-feedback-t... (from a quick Google)

[ryeguy]

You need to grow thicker skin, that first sentence was in no way condescending and gives you no reason to just ignore the rest of his comment.

[telemachos]

No. It may be unintentional, but the tone of stiff's comments is highly condescending.

Exhibit A: Whatever you think about James's choices in this library, he has clearly thought a lot about OOP. It's just silly to start a comment with "You have to think a bit more about what OO really is about."

[phillmv]

>You need to grow thicker skin

I'm beginning to be convinced this is almost never an appropriate thing to say.