If you choose to request and receive "their" services then "they" get a say. Thus, if you use stuff like roads, schools, ambulances, airports, insurances, or the police, then you are part of the society. Of course you can retreat in a forest and use none of those, then you have a valid point in rejecting central authorities, but only then.
Any ID system that isn't just totally run be each individual themselves is ceding power to someone.
Whether you need an ID to do certain things or are tracked doing certain things is also a very separate issue.
What is stopping "them" is that "them" in liberal democracies (as a technical term) isn't free to do whatever they please nor beyond control/recall/etc. If you want to live in a society, there will be rules, implicit or explicit, on how people interact, delegate, etc.