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Well, I can vouch for your siblings’ experience. Both me and my brother were raised by same parents but we turned out very different. I remember endless poverty, my parents fighting, lot of chaotic moments regarding my education progress and merits, being chastised for every little mistake and a lot of abusive parenting in guise of strictness and it had been so traumatic that I still suffer from panic attacks when I have waves of my childhood. My brother has an entirely different memory, loving and supportive nurturing parents, wealth and prosperity, very friendly parents who never fought, lots of social interactions, overall a good childhood. The thing is, when I was the only child, my father was rising out of poverty, I was born to a very underaged mother(she decided to keep my while my father wanted abortion), then my parents had extremely unrealistic expectations and wanted to raise me as the ideal model kid and unintentionally abusing me by following wrong parenting advises from wrong people because sadly children do not come with a user manual(my mom’s joke). But once my brother came in the family, my father has achieved wealth and better understanding of parenting and was less stressed, so he and my mom took their lessons from my childhood and raised my brother correctly(imho). So, it is indeed possible to have entirely different childhood for siblings in the same house. Heck, when my brother was growing up, I still suffered some old strict parenting which was only limited to me because the dynamic was already there for me, but my brother was different. My so often realises these beahviors when we get together at my parent’s place. My brother is sometimes surprised that, the parenting I received was something that he could never withstand and he is grateful that my parents did not repeat that, though sometimes he also claims that it could be different generation thing. That being said, I have no grudge against my parents, poverty can make people do weird things and parenting is hard. But yes, living on the same house under same parents, siblings can have polar opposite experience. |