[EnigmaFlare]

I kind of agree with the shame thing. It is a problem and puts people at risk of this sort of extortion. On the other hand, what's the alternative? Without shame or laws, would we end up with a lot of public exhibitionism? Would that be fine because nobody has any strong feelings about it? If society became like that, would it devalue sex and reduce many people's enjoyment of it? I suppose one advantage is that sexual abuse of children would be nearly impossible by definition, and in practice because those children would themselves already be desensitized to it. Perhaps this is one of those difficult areas where personal freedom impacts general long term wellbeing of society in a subtle and vague way.