[1_1xdev1]

> move to a cheaper place and/or find a better job.

Moving costs thousands. Finding a better job is good advice but often requires investment in yourself (education costs money).

How could anyone move to a lower COL area for less than $1000? A security deposit and first month's rent will be more than that almost anywhere you can "find a better job". And that's ignoring the cost to move your things. (But maybe you didn't have any things or expect someone to sell/start over?)

It's clear your intentions here are good but you're giving poor advice. You're out of touch.

[satvikpendem]

At the end of the day, though, you have to do something to change the situation, and just accepting the status quo means you'll just be stuck there forever. Their advice might be harsh, but it's not poor, it's very even keeled.