[bloomingeek]

<"teaching is grooming" is such a weird thing. > Since grooming has become politicized, the hypocrisy is monumental and finally exposed. So called puritanism is the wrong direction, because as you pointed out, teens will do stupid things.

What about the toxic masculinity culture taught by the right and the church? The right says, "keep these women under control." The church says,"women MUST obey their husbands no matter what." If that's not grooming, I don't know what is.

We home schooled our children. We made sure our kids knew what could happen in life because we are all flawed and sometimes make decisions that could be life altering in unintended ways. We knew that we couldn't educate them enough about the variables of life, but we tried.

[graemep]

I home educated too, and one of the big advantages is that it creates more opportunities to talk to them about things like this.

> The church says,"women MUST obey their husbands no matter what."

Which church exactly says that? Only a fringe group of American evangelicals. I have never come across even them saying "no matter what" although there are probably a few real lunatics who do.

Here is the view of the the largest Christian church, that submission in marriage is mutual: https://www.vatican.va/content/dam/francesco/pdf/apost_exhor... (page 115)

[bloomingeek]

Sorry, I should have mentioned I was referring to the protestant side of evangelicals. The unwritten rule on marriage there is the man always overrules.

Many evangelical fundamentalist churches, for example, use the material from The Institute in Basic Life Principles. On marriage it says,"A husband's authority over his wife is God-given, as is his wife's non-negotiable duty to submit to him; she must respect his position regardless of his "deficiencies".

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Institute_in_Basic_Life_Princi...