[phrop]

munksbeer, please have your child evaluated by a developmental pediatrician. It will take a number of visits and if you are in the U.S. and it will most likely not be covered by insurance, but it is vital in helping you get the support your child may need. I am autistic and so is my child, growing up was hard for me and it is hard for my child, but we are able to provide them with a lot more understanding and affordances to make their life better.

[munksbeer]

We're in the UK, and we're trying. There is a lot of information around, and books written, on how to manage the process here in the UK, but the reality is that it takes a lot of time and constant pushing to eventually succeed in having your child evaluated. We're on the path though, thanks.

Updated: We have been fobbed off a few times already, so we're pursuing avenues with letters from his school and so forth. We are the parents and we know that he is not a typical four year old. We've known something was atypical since his first year. But he doesn't fit the stereotypical definition of what many people associate autism with, so we're worried he is going to fall through the cracks in the system.

[shubb]

In the UK, I got some support for this sort of problem. AFAIK my parents got a private diagnosis and then used that and letters from the doctor to build a case with the local authority. Local authorities are resistant to agreeing to anything because budgets are tight. I remember getting physiotherapy. This was 20+ years ago and the system may have changed