[theblobawakens]

For having taken that choice - getting off socials for ideological reasons - and now being left to do exactly what you suggest - phoning everybody regularly - I have realized that the cost in time is, in fact to trivial at all, quite the opposite.

For a few months now I set time aside every few days to do so, particularly on the week-ends. Problem is ofc that not everybody is available to answer when I call. They then call back at random times, which are not always the best, but you can't also just cut ppl off and say I'll call you later.

Digital social circles allow for asynchronous transmission, while regular comms require synchronous schedules which fast become a big opportunity cost.

As such, maintaining the knowledge of the current state of your social network without some form of localized broadcast mechanism is in truth quite expensive.