| My response to that would be to ask why such things would be appealing in the first place. Why should one that finds no reward in dealing with other people at all, aspire to being promoted or falling in love? Both of which inherently require dealing with other people. A good question. I define that with: nothing happens. Life becomes static. Events don't happen. That's what I meant by being a shut-in. To be fair, a shut-in to having a life is a range rather than a binary thing. My response to that would be to ask why such things would be appealing in the first place. Why should one that finds no reward in dealing with other people at all, aspire to being promoted or falling in love? Both of which inherently require dealing with other people. I don't know. I was OK with not meeting people in real life. Then I started meeting people, and started to find a new dimension in life. I found that I have certain social talent that I didn't know I have. One thing to take into consideration is that people changes and their preferences changes. They are not static. Anyway, it's not so much about having photos or being able to see someone's face. It's about something happening. It's kinda hard to define. Again, no failure, but no success either. No exhilaration, and no happiness. Life is static. Nothing happens. Sadness may happens, but hopefully good things should outweigh that. |
It's worth keeping in mind that the only useful judge of success/failure and happiness/despair is you and you alone.
This means your experience and what you consider success and happiness are only valid insofar as you are concerned. They cannot and should not be applied (nor forced, for that matter) upon anyone else.