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> the same things would also happen if I were at my desk and you were off talking somewhere.

Nobody claimed otherwise. The point here is they wouldn't happen when not "off talking somewhere". Like, you know, when there are more than 2 people grabbing coffee/lunch.

> How would you get me into the conversation?

This is indeed no different than when everyone is at the office and you decline to grab lunch with the rest of your team. You miss out in a similar fashion. And just like how nobody is going to replay the entire conversation to you over Slack and restart it at every juncture, nobody is going to do that for you in person... that's just how humans are. The fact that you are capable of missing out in-person in a similar fashion is not an argument for anything.