| > if the average HN user met me, they would be shocked at this specimen of a human with the intellectual capacity of a stone-age hominid. If the average HN user is shocked at you, I’d be shocked at such average HN user who has no empathy or a clue about how the world works. If anything, avoid associating with people who may make you think you’re worthless or are a failure. > So, the gist of the question is how do i become like you guys? Don’t! Be what you are, recognize or get to know about yourself (from close confidants or therapists) and choose what you’d like to change and why. “I feel like a failure when I see all those overachievers around me” is a terrible reason to change. You don’t know what sacrifices those people are making, how miserable they may actually be due to their choices or actions and how some of them may just be showing off (this doesn’t mean all of them are dishonest, but nobody’s life is perfect). > how do you keep learning so much everyday about the world, complex technical concepts, becoming technical experts, opening and running businesses, nurturing friendships and relationships, and fulfilling the various needs of modern life. I’d say there are too many assumptions here. The average HN user is none of these. The top tier of HN users, based on how you measure it, may be. In most communities, the number of lurkers is a lot higher than the number of active participants. On a platform like HN that’s meant for startups and showcasing things, there’s going to be a huge survivorship bias — those who make it post and those who don’t make it or fail multiple times don’t post (or don’t post as much). Measuring yourself against what’s visible will not help, and could actually be harmful to you. It seems like you could do some good for yourself with counseling, therapy, friendships and connections. If you’d like, add practices that are in general good — eat well, sleep well, exercise and connect with others. If you wish, add meditation to the mix and learn about the philosophy of worldly illusion. Nothing happens in an instant. You need to find out why you want something and put the effort. Be patient and see where things go. This is as much as an internet stranger can advise. |