[theaussiestew]

I wouldn't recommend reading more books, psychology, theories or how to step guides. I've been in your shoes, good awareness but still offending or rubbing people the wrong way despite genuinely not intending to. I recommend a more experiential approach, which would obviously make more sense for something like our emotions. To be mentally capable one has to think more, to be emotionally capable one has to feel more. Therefore, I recommend meditation that is focused more on introspection, self-realisation. These processes will help you empathize more deeply with yourself, understand yourself deeply (much more deeply than merely in an intellectual manner) and then apply that to others. This way the dynamics between yourself and yourself, yourself and family, and finally yourself and others in the wider community will be clearer. The dynamics will then naturally resolve themselves over time. Good luck :)

[theaussiestew]

And I'd also like to add that psychological hacks and tricks, from books like "Never Split The Difference" and "How to Win Friends and Influence People" don't really work in an effective way. The best way to navigate relationships is naturally, in the moment with no playbook in your mind. It all comes naturally once one is relaxed, but getting to that relaxed state is the challenge, especially if one has spent one's life doing the opposite by being constantly in their mind.