[makeitdouble]

IMHO the part about the kids not being ready is crucial.

If they're just not well off financially I'd see your idea happen (but then, we already see grand parents giving a hand financially in these kind of circumstances)

But if they're not ready mentally, there would be mountains of issues with their relationship with their child. For instance, do they even fully understand it's their child under their responsibility ? Can they continue raising their child when the grand parents can't anymore ? How well will they take it if suddenly they have to give up important things to completely focus on the kid(s) ? On the other hand will they be able to step in if the grand parents aren't fit for that ? etc.

I think it would work better if parents give it a fair try, but end up being inept and have the grandparents step in. Giving up from the start would be a worse path IMHO.

[bitcoin_anon]

My life was a mess until we unexpectedly had our first child. I don’t think I ever would have considered myself mentally ready. The child came first, then I started growing into a suitable person.

[makeitdouble]

TBF, I don't think any of us really understood what it would take or were well prepared to become parents, even when getting into it on our terms.

I don't know if I'm a suitable person, but having a kid sure pushed me out of my boundaries pretty far, in every possible direction.