[rayiner]

> The upside is that I was a total basket case in my 20s, completely incompetent to be able to raise a child.

How common is it that people are incompetent to raise kids in their 20s, versus people who may not presently have everything together because nobody expects anything from or depends on them?

[brabel]

Great point. Most people are perfectly capable of raising to the occasion, but while there's no occasion they just stay in the comfort of their responsibility-free lives... I say, enjoy it while it lasts!