[aidenn0]

This retort is true of literally everything involved in raising kids.

Substitute "parents" "preschool teachers" "sports coach" &c. for "grandparents" in the sentence and it's still true for the domain for the children. It's true that with grandparents you have a maximum of 4 to choose from, but you might not have more than 4 preschools to choose from either.

[sublinear]

The best part about being a mature parent is that you have much more control over how you raise your kids. No way in hell did I ever trust teachers, grandparents, coaches, etc. over my actual parents.

My parents were in their 30s when I was born. Their skepticism not only decoupled them from depending on people they didn't trust, but their perspective rubbed off on me and set me up for success. Older parents have no problem showing their kids the reality of the world early on.

Individualism is not a bad thing at all if only you could convince all these people stuck in the past. This world will fall apart if we don't focus on higher quality parenting from the actual parents. Since long ago we've been saying we don't want "kids raising kids". My parents weren't the only ones thinking this way.

[paulryanrogers]

Arguably you can chose other teachers and coaches and daycare

[aidenn0]

You have up to 4 grandparents to choose from (in the case where all 4 are still living, but separated).

[BriggyDwiggs42]

What about crappy parents?

[paulryanrogers]

Exactly. That's the distinction. While you can chose other people in most roles for your kids, you cannot pick their grandparents.