[king-of-turtles]

You're not wrong. You need to be top-top talent to get offers on skill alone (I've seen it with one individual, it's rare).

The real kicker is that "All the people liking you outside the job" is going to be radically different at each place. There is no way to calculate for that.

This is why workplace culture is stupid. We don't need to be a substitution for real friends. Just let us do our jobs. Socializing is a great skill, but it doesn't equate to being able to debug Golang or detect accounting fraud.