[bmacho]

> It’s weird I even have to say this, but don’t stalk me and email me at my personal address.

I am not sure of what happened, and it must have been unpleasant, but someone going up on your website hierarchy, they reach https://commutative.xyz/~miguelmurca/, they click the only link, and you personally list your profiles there, including email, github and insta. It is OK if someone contacts you for whatever reason on addresses and profiles that you explicitly shared.

> If you email me anywhere else, I will not respond. I also cannot force you to follow basic etiquette if you do write, but it would be appreciated.

This is rude, it looks bad in the article, and you are the one who doesn't follow basic netiquette.

[miguelmurca]

Hey, hope you enjoyed the article itself.

I'm sorry if you felt that addendum was aggressive. However, I still feel like I'm justified in making it absolutely clear how (and if) I want to be contacted. I am in a complicated position where I'm speaking to a niche -- not an imaginary niche, by any means -- but actually addressing every reader. In the face of this, my option was to clearly state my boundaries, regardless.

I list an email address at the end of every article, for the purposes of discussing the content of the article. I add a "+ext" to every email I list (including the one on my personal home page). I had people ignore the email I stated in the article, find a different email, strip it of the + tags, and email me there in a foreign language and opening with "I assume you speak X" (presumably because of my name?).

I disagree with you that it's fair game to do the above. OSINT is, well, legal, and I'm not trying to hide my identity, clearly. But I would still be upset if, for example, someone wrote to my university email (which is not hard to find out, by your own procedure) regarding this post.

Nonetheless, again, it is not my goal to sound rude, but simply to set boundaries and expectations. I will remove the second sentence towards this goal, but stand by its objective meaning, and will keep the rest as is.

Cheers

[bombcar]

The sentiment you have is fine, but if you really wanted to you could rewrite it like this:

If you wish to contact me by email, by all means do so to miguelmurca+autoref [æt] cumperativa.xyz - I may not be able to respond. If I don't please don't try to find other emails to send to me, as I'll not respond to those, either, and just delete them. This post is in English. If you wish to write me, please do so in English. Other languages will be deleted.

(The key is assholes won't read it anyway, so there's no reason to snark them, just delete.)

[bmacho]

> However, I still feel like I'm justified in making it absolutely clear how (and if) I want to be contacted.

> I list an email address at the end of every article, for the purposes of discussing the content of the article.

I am maybe blind, or because of adblockers, or because of cloudflare, but they don't show up for me, in edge, and in firefox.

You definitely should make it easy for the people to contact you in your preferred way. Put it under the articles, under the blog home page https://commutative.xyz/~miguelmurca/blog/ , and maybe under your HN about section.

My previous message was under the impression that you don't put a contact info in this blog, and I tried to demonstrate that getting messages at your other contact is your fault, not the public's fault or "HN reader"'s fault. (I wonder if

  But, 1. famously, HN can be quite predictable in some of their responses (by what I expect is, essentially, a meme effect), and 2. I’ve had some unexpected experiences resulting from previously reaching FP in HN.

has any truth in it, and the readers from HN are worse than the other readers?)

[verticalscaler]

The article itself is great.

> I will remove the second sentence towards this goal

Your critic decided their negative emotions about a miniscule matter are more important than the actual contents of your post and worthy of derailing the conversation. And then they called you rude.

There is really no need to cater to such people. It obviously has zilch to do with you in actuality.