My gripe, for every one of them, I hear a contradicting one, from an equally reputable source. And then it gives me a cognitive dissonant Diarrhoea. And stresses me out. DAE face this? How do they handle it?
Repeat the positive ones, and they will eventually get louder than the negative ones. This is the thought behind daily affirmations: "I'm good enough, I'm smart enough, and dog-gone it, people like me."
I had a childhood where I was brought up to believe I was worthless. One tactic I used to overwrite those schema that imprinted in my personality from early life is to repeat what I believe about myself, like I'm a good person, etc. Eventually those pathways of believing I'm good were more comfortable than those of believing I'm worthless.
Some further truths can colour the reliability of each.
1) honesty is the constantly out of reach ideal that solves a huge portion of nearly all global problems
2) Everyone becomes worm food faster than they expect, and they care less about their legacy when they are dead than they expected and they are forgotten faster and more permanently than they expected.
I had a childhood where I was brought up to believe I was worthless. One tactic I used to overwrite those schema that imprinted in my personality from early life is to repeat what I believe about myself, like I'm a good person, etc. Eventually those pathways of believing I'm good were more comfortable than those of believing I'm worthless.