| > what is sexual attraction? The best way I can describe sexual attraction is having an emotional level awareness of sex as a category. It's not limited to physical appearance. There is something would make you want to have sex with another person. > instead of choosing a partner because they love them and only wanting to have sex with them because of that love. Given what you already said, this isn't a question an asexual person is likely to ask. They would already know the answer. :) > seems to me that being able to enjoy sex in the way you say is the better and healthier approach. Not really. I don't understand why sex is important. I don't understand why anyone would want to go out of their way to have it. Sure, it's fun, but not enough to justify all the hype about it. If you want to get hot and sweaty, can we go play laser tag and gang up on some over-confident teenagers instead? Why the heck does the entire history of human society care about this? What would get me to want sex? When it's an add-on to another fun activity. Cuddling and sex! I'm listening. (Note to self, never suggest naked laser tag again.) Hope that helps! :) |
i have never felt anything like that.
Given what you already said, this isn't a question an asexual person is likely to ask. They would already know the answer. :)
i wasn't actually asking a question but making a statement.
i think my understanding and my feelings about this are much closer to yours than i am comfortable describing in detail in a public post here. (but i am open to continue this conversation in private, as i am very interested in getting a better understanding about this question.)
I don't understand why sex is important.
i understand it about as well as i understand why people want to have a car. (i don't have a car, and i don't drive). more specifically, i see sex as just one of the many ways that one can show affection to someone else. the trouble is that it has been overloaded with taboos and expectations unlike most other forms of showing affection. and i agree it is overhyped.