[solarmist]

First step is to stop blaming yourself for everything. You are a product of your circumstances and upbringing.

Second step is to allow the possibility that even supportive parents can still make mistakes that negatively impact your ability to do the things you want to do. Neglect has nothing to do with the kind of person your parents are. This is not a moral judgement of your parents.

Third is to learn about and to accept and rely on your emotions. This is where I'm at and it's a long process, but the sooner you get started the soon you become unstuck.

Also, no one remembers neglect. How can you remember something you didn't have?

Good people can neglect things. Maybe they had an uncle/aunt who was supportive in a certain way so they didn't know they need to support they own children in that way. Or maybe they had their own issues they were working through and just didn't have the bandwidth or capacity to give something or other to their children. Again neglect is not a moral judgement.